I love to read license plates and decipher the message from the words. Here’s the plate I saw on Saturday.

GVTHANX. Give thanks. It’s a simple message, only how many of us do this on a regular basis? I remember learning about “Thank yous” as a child. Who else remembers Captain Kangaroo and the magic words?

You can also find books that focus on this. A favorite is Thank You Power: Making the Science of Gratitude Work for You by Deborah Norville. A new one that’s now on my Christmas list is Help, Thanks, Wow: The Three Essential Prayers by Anne Lamott.

I know we’re more aware of this concept during the holidays, and it’s a good habit to practice all year round. When you take the time to focus on what you are grateful for, you’ll find more happiness in your life. You’ll also begin to see more of what you are grateful for show up in your life. You’ll find yourself more resilient and even less stressful. Positivity all around!

Here are three tips for adding a gratitude practice to your life:

1. Keep a gratitude journal. At the end of each day write down three things that you were grateful for during the day. They don’t have to be big. One can be as simple as watching the sunrise or the laugh you got when your dog chased his tail. Periodically go back and read what you’ve written.

2. Set aside a few minutes every morning to hold a silent gratitude session. Think about what you are grateful for. Think about those people you are grateful for.

3. As you go through your day, look for times you can say Thank You and do so. These can be little gestures. It makes a difference to you and the other person.

4. If you think of someone and the difference they’ve made in your life, take time to call or write and let them know.

Here’s one of my favorite quote about gratitude:

Practicing gratitude will make a significance difference in your life. Please share your thoughts below.

You may know that I just finished our “When it Absolutely Has to Be Done in 30 Days” coaching program. Everyone in the program either completed or made great strides towards their goal during this time. In the end it wasn’t just about accomplishing the goal, it was also what we learned on the journey about the focus and discipline required to get there. During our last call, one of our participants asked, “When was the last time you treated yourself?” Do you have a good answer?

We have discussed this off and on during our 30-day program. Each week each person shared an intention of what she would accomplish that week. At the end of the week, we all shared our successes. I always asked, “How are you going to celebrate?” We had celebrations ranging from enjoying a new CD to a manicure/pedicure to quilting to a trip to the movies. I think many of the participants looked forward to learning how others were celebrating.

We often spend so much time working toward our goals that we forget to look at what we have accomplished and, even if we do, we don’t take the time to really acknowledge what we’ve done. It’s always onto the next thing on the list. Or looking at the really big “perfect” vision we have and coming up short.

So take some time this week and look at where you are in your business and where you started and acknowledge what you’ve done. Then make plans to celebrate that. And, when someone asks, “When was the last time you treated yourself?” you can answer it.

Now, I’ll ask you, “When was the last time you treated yourself?”

Please share your thoughts and celebrations below.

Many of us struggle with aligning our priorities with our actions. I recently had a conversation with one of my private coaching clients. She said her family was her priority, yet she was barely fitting them in around her business, rather than the other way around. Our priorities are really defined by how and where we spend our time, and, by that definition, family was not her number one priority.

To get clearer on your priorities, during the next month develop a list of your needs, wants and values. “What’s the difference?” you ask. A need is something you must have in order to be your best, such as time, space, money, love, information, food, etc. A want is something that you relate to by trying to acquire or experience it, such as a car, a vacation, a house, a new sewing machine, etc. Values are behaviors or preferences that you naturally gravitate to or that are prompted from within and not by needs or wants. An example might be security or adventure or creativity. The same thing can be a need, want or value for different people or for the same person at different times. Here are some guidelines:

* If there is urgency, it’s probably a need.
* If there’s a craving or desire, it’s probably a want.
* If there is a natural and uncomplicated pull, it’s probably a value.

Next, complete a “calendar audit.” Look at your calendar for the last couple of months. Take every bit of time, personal as well as business, and compare your expenditure of time with your needs, wants and values. What did you learn?

Last, create objectives and action plans to better align your words and your actions. The most fulfilling goals are those that align with your values.

Please share your thoughts below.

With quilt show season at its height, I thought I’d share some tips for shopping large shows, both wholesale and retail.

1. Pack comfortable clothes and shoes. You can easily be on your feet for eight hours or more. Take to heart the Quilts Inc. admonition, “Remember at Market, fashion stops at the knees!”

2. Take some healthy snacks with you, like fruits and nuts. All the booths will have snacks of the chocolate variety and while a bit is fine, you want to be sure to keep your stamina up. Once you start walking the floor, it’s hard to leave. Something new or an old friend catches your eye. That sugar rush just won’t sustain you. And, don’t forget to bring water or an empty water bottle to fill to keep hydrated.

3. Take advantage of the learning opportunities. Quilts Inc. has lectures and classes the day before Market opens and then the mornings and evenings when the vendor floor is closed. This is a wonderful opportunity to take back knowledge to share with your staff and customers and to build your business. At retail shows, you can often find wonderful classes that will teach you something to share with your customers. Even just bringing back knowledge of “what’s new” is important.

4. If you go to Quilt Market, don’t wait in line for Sample Spree. I always check the lines for Sample Spree and often find the same people at the front of the line every show. They recognize me coming now! Some of these attendees get in line at 2 pm for an event that starts at 8 pm. They miss half of the Schoolhouse Sessions and terrific learning opportunities. Once the doors open, most everyone in line gets in within five to 10 minutes. Even latecomers get in. Last I heard they weren’t giving a prize for first one in the door!

5. Don’t forget your business cards. You are going to meet shop owners and quilt business owners from around the world in addition to buying for your business. A good tip is to make a note or two on the back of the card as a memory jogger for when you get home. And, to make it easy for ordering, try printing the information on labels to make filling out forms easier.

6. Start with a plan to shop the floor. Spend time the night before going through the show program, marking those you must see. Set a schedule that includes any appointments you have with fabric companies or distributors. If you are shopping with a group, be sure everyone knows the schedule. Many shop owners walk the floor and collect literature during the first day, go over the material at night and then buy the second or third day. Other shop owners know what their shop needs and buy on the first walk through. Figure out the plan that will work best for you.

7. If you are traveling with a group, be sure you’ve got everyone’s phone numbers programmed in to your phones. Market is really big, and it’s easy to get separated from your group. Even keeping up with your group at a small show can be a problem.

8. Keep a journal so you can track what you see, need to follow up on, etc. I usually have a small 5″ by 8″ notebook where I make notes about what’s new, action I need to take when I get back, and secure business cards I collect. It’s fun to see what’s transpired over the years.

9. Look for ways to connect. Everyone has to have lunch and/or dinner. Look for someone at a table, go join them. You’ll probably pick up a business tip and be able to share one, too. And, likely you’ll make a new friend.

Please share your thoughts below.

Three times in the past week I’ve had someone talk to me about self care. The first was a client who was stressed and not tending to her own needs. I noted that it was critical that she so put herself first. The second was my dental hygienist who has now taken a really strong stand on self care. When she said this, I realized that she was coming from a whole place of lightness. I had, perhaps, noticed this over the past couple of years but didn’t have a context for the change. She said she was totally operating from a place of love. It made perfect sense. Then Saturday morning at a meeting, someone mentioned to me that he realized many of his problems stemmed from a lack of putting himself and his needs first. Three encounters on the same topic in one week. Guess the universe is trying to tell me something.

Does it seem like your time just slips away and that at the end of the day, you didn’t accomplish all you planned? Do you have dreams about what you want to do in your spare time, only you don’t have any?

For some people it’s not being clear on what you want from your day – or even your life. There’s that clarity thing again, but it really is the key to everything. One of the exercises I often hear suggested is to look at your life and decide what your days would be like if you were not limited by time or money. Once you do that, here are some additional steps.

1. Get clear about how you are really spending your time. To do this, you will need to track how you are actually spending your time, all of it. Keep a diary – kind of like when you keep track of what you eat – of what you do with all the time in your day. Start with when you get up and go through the end of the day. Do this for at least three days, preferably a week. I guarantee you will learn something unexpected.

2. Once you see how you really spend your time, review what you do that isn’t part of that ideal day. (If your ideal day was sitting by the water in the Caribbean with an umbrella drink, you might have a lot that doesn’t fit, but at least you know what you’re aiming for!) Look at what you are doing that could be done by someone else on your team. If you don’t have a team, look at what you could have someone do if you did, and consider moving in that direction.

3. Consider what you are doing that you shouldn’t be doing at all. If you find lots of those activities, learn how to say no. Look at those where you should be limiting your time, e.g., surfing the Internet. What you do should be using your skills and helping you pursue your goals.

4. Look at what activities you pursue that are really your passion. Try to spend more time there.

5. Review which activities are “putting out fires.” You may be familiar with Stephen Covey’s quadrants from his Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. Things are urgent and important; important and not urgent; not important and urgent; or not important and not urgent. Your goal should be to spend time in the important and not urgent quadrant. If you are spending time in the urgent and important quadrant, you are putting out fires. Likely, this is because you didn’t prioritize or you procrastinated. Many of us spend too much time in the not important or not urgent areas and then we end up with those fires to put out.

6. If you want to spend time appropriately, plan your day the night before. That way you decide your priorities and can get more accomplished.

Remember, how you spend your time is how you spend your life.

Do you have any tips on spending your time more appropriately? Please share your thoughts below.

A couple of weeks ago I was talking with one of my private coaching clients, and she was very excited about what she had accomplished since our previous call. She has big goals and is right on track with them. When I mentioned how thrilled I was for her, she noted that she was ready to pick something from her Reward Jar during her weekly Success and Strategies Summit.

Last month during our IAPQ member goal setting call, I mentioned that it’s a good idea to create a way to celebrate our successes. SInce we often work in isolated environments, i.e., not an outside workplace with lots of co-workers, it’s up to us to reward ourselves. I like the idea of putting a reward on a piece of paper, putting it in the jar and then picking something out for yourself when it’s time to celebrate.

As for what kind of reward you create, you need to think about what motivates you. We all have different motivators. A bike ride through the park may be just what you need. For someone else it’s a painful reminder of exercise. And, not everyone enjoys a hot bubble bath or a massage. For you, maybe it’s a trip to a nice restaurant, a visit to a new gallery, a game of toss with your dog or a shopping spree for a new pair of shoes.

How to figure out what really motivates you? It’s often that activity that brings a smile to your face. Spend some time making a list of those activities, write them on individual pieces of paper and collect them in a jar or even a fabric bowl. As you look back over your successes this week, don’t forget to reward yourself.

Please share your what’s in your reward jar below.

It seems every year many people make a resolution to manage their time better. How about you? Funny thing is that we all have the same 24 hours in the day. Some of us just do a better job of managing ourselves. Here are five tips to help you do that this year:

Here are some time management quotes I really like:

Please share your thoughts on how you get control of your time below.

Despite the title of this piece sounding rather Tina Turnerish to me, I’ve been thinking a great deal lately about what I want in a variety of areas. In other words, I’ve been looking for clarity. It’s so easy to get bogged down with all the what ifs and fuzzy thinking. Ever been there?

What do you need clarity on? When I work with some clients, that’s our first step. Clarity is really the foundation of success both in your business and your personal life.

You need to be clear on the direction you are going. What is your end goal? If you don’t know where you’re going, how will you know when you get there?

You need to be clear on who your client is. We can’t be everything to all people, though I do know people who try. In one class I taught, I had a student who wanted to turn every quilter into an appliqué artist. While that was an admirable goal, her time would have been exhausted trying to accomplish this. She would have been more effective targeting beginning quilters to get them started.

You need to be clear on the financial realities of your business. Where does your income come from? What are your expenses? How much do you need to earn to provide support for yourself?

Those are just a few of the many areas that require clarity. I’m sure you can find other areas where you are searching for clarity. It could be something big, like what my coaches call your “Big Why,” or it could be something smaller, like the name of your new pattern.

It’s easy to figure out what you need to be clear on – you hear the muddled voices. How do you find clarity? Here are a few approaches to tune into the right little voice inside so you can listen.

1. Create a vision board. The easy approach is to go through magazines and find things that resonate with you. It could be colors, words, pictures of places you want to visit, quilts you want to make or techniques you want to learn. Glue them onto a piece of poster board and leave it in a place where you’ll see it. I find that just searching for the items to put on my vision board helps me get clearer.

2. Keep a journal. Note your day’s activities, how you felt about what happened, any insights you might have. You might even ask a question and brainstorm on ideas or let the answer just come to you. Go back and read your earlier entries. The more you journal about something, the clearer it becomes.

3. Be grateful. If you are grateful every day, you can start to replace confusion with clarity. I keep a gratitude journal.

4. Spend time alone in nature. You may feel most at peace in a certain type of setting. For me it’s the water. So when I need to gain clarity, I will often sit by the water. Clarity often comes just “being,” and this environment lets me “be.”

5. Let go of the question. Sometimes by no longer putting your attention on something the answer will just come to you.

And, finally remember when I started looking at the letters in the word “success”? For me, the first C is for clarity.

Here’s a quote on clarity from Scottish writer Richard Holloway that I like:

Please share your thoughts on clarity below.

I had a busy travel schedule in September, and looking into October, I’ve got Quilt Market in a few weeks. The Fall issue of The Professional Quilter is in the mail, and I’ve got lots of loose ends to tie up. I think my “to do” list is a mile long. Plus, I’m busy working with my meeting planner on scheduling our annual meeting for next March. Wow! Just thinking about it adds to my stress level.

I realize that I like to work hard and can easily neglect taking appropriate care of myself. I know I have good intentions but can slack off. How about you? I thought about ways to be sure I put myself in my calendar and thought I’d share some with you. I’d love to get your feedback on how you care for yourself on the blog.

1. Pay attention to your health. October is National Breast Cancer Awareness Month. As a daughter of a breast cancer survivor, I am aware my family history plays some part. Early this week I called and made an appointment for my annual mammogram. All women have experienced the discomfort of the machine, though not many have had the experience of Leigh Anne Jasheway. She won the Erma Bombeck Award for Humor Writing in 2003 for her true story about her first mammogram when the machine caught on fire. Here’s a link the the article, “The First Time’s Always the Worst.”

2. Watch what you eat. Halloween is just around the corner and then we have Thanksgiving followed by Hanukkah and Christmas. It’s easy to get caught up in celebrations and neglect to pay attention to what you eat. And, since most of us work from home, i.e., near the refrigerator or pantry stash or the leftovers, it’s sometimes hard to eat healthy. Eating healthy keeps you energized and you feel better. For me, I try to follow the meal plan in our 5 Simple Steps to Boost Your Business and Boost Your Health. For the month, we’ve marked it down 15% for non-members, 20% for members.

3. Treat yourself to something special. I have a friend who treats herself a couple of times a month at the local bakery where she enjoys a cup of coffee and whatever just came from the oven. As my treat, I scheduled a massage for later this week. Did you know that it’s Spa Week? Spas all across the U.S are offering $50 treatments. Here’s a link to see if you can find one near you.

4. Get some exercise. I’m actually good about scheduling this one. I walk four miles early every weekday morning with my neighbors. They keep me accountable – you wouldn’t want to let down someone who got up before the crack of dawn – and I start my day energized. You don’t have to aim for my level; as little as a 15 minute walk three times a week makes a difference.

5. Get enough sleep. Busy people sometimes think that sleep is optional. Getting enough sleep is crucial to your well-being. I’ve read that six to eight hours is optimal and that you should go to bed and rise at about the same time each day.

6. Add some down time into your calendar. It could be the 15-minute break mid-afternoon where you make yourself a cup of tea and enjoy a magazine or think about your dreams. It could be a quick walk around the back yard or a 20-minute yoga stretch. A break in your day will help you avoid burnout.

As with each of these ideas, scheduling the time is key. If you don’t pay attention to yourself, you will be tired and stressed out. That doesn’t give you the energy required to run your business. So take time to take care of YOU.

Please share your ideas on how you care for yourself below on our blog.